A salary for mothers

 Galia Koplis ©
  
An article that challenges traditional thinking  

 

 

The unwillingness to recognize women's work as a real job and as a contribution to humanity, which is subject to permanent compensation by law, causes damage to the relationships between the sexes and hence to society. Changing the thinking about the fairness of rewarding women's work will completely change the world and give the woman the economic power that only money can provide and will provide assistance to men who are under pressure to earn a living

Men feel exploited because they have to bring home most of the paycheck and women feel exploited because their work is mostly undervalued. And the children also feel the resentment this causes in the family.

 

The society is distorted if only one value receives attention and the other is ignored. The values that rule our society today are masculine, power and a product that can been seen immediately and therefore they receive a weekly or monthly salary, in contrast to the values attributed to women of nurturing and endless Sisyphean tasks that happen quietly and are indispensable, such as education and housework and maintaining family integrity.

 

Financial recognition of the mothers’ contribution can change the lack of imbalance and distortion in society.

 

Women's economic dependency: the norm of the day, an inheritance from ancient times, is that the woman, if she only works at home, receives a living allowance from her master, like the rest of the servants, even if her life is considered a welfare life. When you receive money from others it's still dependency, a dependency that can stop at any moment or at the least someone makes sure to remind her of this.

 

In the past children were also not considered important. They grew up wildly, without special care, so there was no need to invest in them, and this also relates to the lack of appreciation for the issue of family. Many women remained with the children even when they did not receive a living allowance from the father, while the father often physically abandoned them and often abandoned the children emotionally. Psychological abandonment is common even today in normative families.

 

Today, the fact that women give birth and are supposed to care for the child and the family and home makes it difficult for them to work and advance in paid jobs because all the interruptions over the years and throughout the day prevent continuous work. When there is a choice between the two options of paid work or motherhood she is the one who is forced to give up her job, that is, rearing the child is attributed to her.

 

Thus, the woman's free work, limitations because of motherhood, guilt for neglecting the children and on the other hand the accusation that she does not work or does not work enough and belligerence in the workplace also interfere with the woman’s ability to earn her bread outside her home.

 

Despite the importance of a mother’s work, which is hardly comparable to any profession in the world, except perhaps agriculture and craftsmanship, she depends on her husband for his salary, his generosity, the hardness or generosity of the legal authorities and her ability to bargain.

 

The woman is forced to act as a survivor in a world that does not belong to her and not as someone who has rights in the world, and hence most of her reactions are either of submission and withdrawal or of survival within the narrow framework in which she lives , as a seductress, Busy only with her externality, struggling with her partner, calling the children to her side, doing housekeeping chores like excessive cleaning and working outside the home in conditions that make life difficult for the entire family.

 

Economic power is a central force in human life and when it is taken away from women, just like sexual freedom has been taken from women, as though they did not belong to her, they render her utterly worthless and powerless.

 

The contribution of mothers: If we talk about global capital, it is largely occupied by the fact that half of the population does not receive wages. It is possible to add many more exploited male workers than they are willing to admit, and that they too are owed from the global capital, but women, in principle all women, are not paid for their work. Even in places where women work in additional jobs such as those related to agriculture work, their work is still not considered worthy of a salary or dignity.

 

Theories attribute the exploitation of men by women by them giving birth, while the reality is the opposite, motherhood is simply an excuse to enslave the woman and sometimes while forcing motherhood on them. The birth of children is considered to be a private matter of the woman or the family, although it is of fundamental importance to society. Society needs children more than the woman needs them.

 

The lower her status and the less compensated she is, the more children she usually gives birth to. In developed countries where a woman has the right to freedom of choice, her choice is usually to have 1-2 children to fulfill herself and some women even choose not to give birth. Many think: Who needs this? Hard work without pay, a low maternal status, many limitations, a lot of financial and often also mental dependence, the mother is always guilty of something, either the way she takes care of her children, or how she uses her partner's money. The result is an aging population in developed countries that requires the import of a young generation from the outside, with all the problems that this entails.

 

Birth is considered natural, something nature does, so there is no need to pay for it. Equally, it can be said that the work of a porter is natural because he is born stronger, or that being a soldier is natural because young men have belligerent hormones. Even the free time of men who do not get pregnant and hence do not have to take the time to take care of themselves is natural and therefore allows them to take paid jobs.

 

And if one thinks that being a mother can be taken for granted, one can examine how much effort young mothers invest in education, learning about education, the small jobs of nutrition, cleaning, supervision, and how mothers influence children. A mother's work requires abilities such as loyalty and many other skills. One can also add the tremendous importance of a mother's natural love for her baby and the contribution of the woman to the child, which is just the beginning of the skill of giving and receiving love in the world in general.

 

When the mother is vulnerable, helpless because of the lack of direct monetary compensation and the pressure exerted on her as a result, it interferes with her ability to give her child all her emotional potential. The damage of the lack of direct compensation for the mother's work is harmful both to mothers and children, both boys and girls. The fact that women can receive a salary and get rid of their anxiety due of their dependence on their partner to the point of succumbing to violence and financial pressures will lead to better education, greater love in the family, a greater investment in the children and ultimately to a new generation of healthier adults.

 

Many mothers who discover that they have independent financial freedom and feel that their work is honorable and indispensable, will have a free choice to stay at home for a few years or to work in an accommodating position suitable for mothers.

 

Fathers: Although many fathers feel that they are participating in the task of parenting, the main responsibility is on the mother, and if there is a need to make concessions the majority falls on the mother.

 

Only a minority of partners actually participate in raising children equally or almost equally.

 

Likewise, a man who works like a woman in mother's work should receive the same compensation. Once men get paid for parenting work, the prestige of this profession will immediately rise and we will see male candidates for this profession.

 

 The main message should be that the woman is making a contribution and is not being supported by a man and therefore she deserves a salary.
It may be said that women will take advantage of the situation to give birth more, but today there is also talk about the fact that in the male market there are no shortage of exploiters. In general, the issue of the economy of mothers and children must be addressed without looking for more difficulties.

 

Where will the money come from? From the same place that money comes from for other less important services, and from the same place where the big capital flows, sometimes without ever contributing anything. The state can invest in mothers just as the state can invest in the army and in security.

Money is there, the question is where it is used and who uses it.

 

How will they do that? It took thousands of years to maintain the family as it is today. Nevertheless, it is a fact that in our period families of a new kind have spontaneously arisen. The solution is to create a change in the awareness of the idea that has been institutionalized for so many years that it seems to be true. Only with understanding will solutions be found.